Relationship Breakups Hurt – No Matter What You Think
For most of us, learning to deal with relationship breakups will be an invaluable life skill to know. Many of us will fall in and out of love several times before we finally find “the one” and ending those other relationships is painful and difficult, even though the more you do it the easier it will become, which does not provide a lot of solace.
There are some tried and true methods you can use to help you get through your breakups maybe a little more quickly and easily. Everyone is different and finding the things that you can do that will help you find a little peace at this difficult tine can be a life saver when the time rolls around that you find yourself in relationship breakups.
One of the best places to start is with your life. I don’t mean to overwhelm you but in most cases there are things that you like to do that maybe you haven’t had much time to do. Or, you have not done it too much because your ex didn’t want to do it. Remember those things, and start doing them again (or continue doing them if you have not stopped doing them).
Doing the things you love can help make your days go by a little more quickly and maybe take your mind off of your breakup or your ex for at least a little time (and at that point you’ll take all the peace you can get).
Another great thing to do at this difficult time is to find a new activity, something you have been wanting to do for a long time but just never got around to it, that can help you concentrate on something other than your ex and your past. Many people have one or more of these types of things that they have been interested in doing but just have never found the time. Do it now. Again, that will give you something positive to think about and can offer you some relief during this time.
One of the things that you just do not want to do is to listen to all those “well meaning” people who tell you that you “need to get back out there”. While that is true, you need to allow yourself all the time you need. No one can tell you how much time it will take you. Only you can figure out how you are feeling and when you are ready to start disabled dating again.
Though, having said that, remember that if you don’t seem to be moving on at all after several months you may want to try to find someone to talk to. Sometimes we all need the help of an objective third party who can help us see things that we may be too close to to see clearly. Finding a good counselor may be what you need to begin moving forward again.
Just do not beat yourself up, relationship breakups are an inevitable part of your disabled dating life. learning the best way for you to deal with them will help you find peace and love again sooner, and isn’t that what you really want?