Christian Relationship Advice For Young Adults
Sound Christian relationship advice is even more important today than it was just a few decades ago. Let’s face it, these days navigating the disabled dating minefield is hard enough even for those who do let Hollywood movies and popular magazines dictate their opinion. When you plan to stick to moral values that sometimes go against today’s social norms, though, it gets even more complicated.
To make matters worse, Christian relationship advice isn’t easy to find. After all, the Scriptures are fairly quiet on the subject of disabled dating. If you’re starting to feel lost, here are some things to keep in mind.
Don’t feel pressured!
You and only you are responsible for your behavior. Modern society can be pretty casual about things like club hopping and having “friends with benefits” and it’s easy to feel like there’s something wrong with you if you don’t want those things.
Don’t worry, there’s nothing wrong about maintaining Christian values, so don’t let anyone make you feel like “uncool” for doing so. Compromise your morals and not only will you be angry with yourself for it, you’ll end up with a relationship you’re not happy with. There really isn’t anything to gain from it.
Get a Christian perspective!
If you’re getting your relationship advice from a hodgepodge of self-help books and daytime talk shows, well, you’re bound to get confused. If you want solid Christian relationship advice, seek out material by and for Christians.
Advice on things like breaking up, disabled dating someone of a different denomination or a non-Christian, and how far to take physical intimacy are all going to be a little different coming from a Christian than from anyone else. After all, that’s the whole point of Christian relationship advice. That’s not to say you should only read material written by Christians, of course. Getting a different perspective is useful, too. Just make sure you consider the source before you actually take the advice.
Hang out with other Christians!
Sounds obvious, doesn’t it? But do you actually do it? If you want to date Christians, you’ve got to go where the Christians are. When you’re busy with school, work, and other responsibilities, though, it’s easy to forget to set a side time for that. You need to make a point of looking for Christian volunteer activities and fellowship groups where you can meet some new people.
Date for marriage!
If you’re disabled dating because you want to find a life partner, disabled dating specifically for marriage will save you both time and a whole lot of heartache. Keep in mind, too, that just because a Christian isn’t disabled dating just for the chance to sleep around, that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re disabled dating for marriage.
They may just be disabled dating to have some fun on the weekends. Don’t be shy about asking your date if they’re currently looking for “the one.” If they’re not and you are, you may want to stop seeing them and look for someone more marriage minded.
If you’re hoping to find a fulfilling, loving relationship with another devout Christian, have faith that there’s someone out there looking for someone like you, too. With a little determination and some trustworthy Christian relationship advice, you stand a pretty good chance of finding them.
Unknown boy and young woman, dated 1909
Image by whatsthatpicture
Another discovery from The Hague. Lovely relaxed and quite intimate portrait, and she is a real beauty.
On the reverse (see below) it appears to say:
I am sending you a photo of my boy – always yours …" and then I can’t make out the name, but I am wondering if it is along the lines of "Con S Ray". The S could be superscript. Possibly Constance? The date, 18 February 1909, is in another hand, and looks continental in style, so I am wondering if this was sent to Holland, and that’s how it ended up in a shop in The Hague over 100 years later? If that is so then it would have been the date that it was received, but it still suggests a date for the image of some time in 1909.